tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5570801609581631361.post7491102730376438213..comments2024-03-06T17:02:32.359-08:00Comments on the asshat lounge: Residual EffectsKonohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13865029570865495659noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5570801609581631361.post-62241424935839193212020-08-19T09:01:23.184-07:002020-08-19T09:01:23.184-07:00i read every word, and no, i did not have an urge ...i read every word, and no, i did not have an urge to tell you to stop whining. i had an urge to backhand your ungrateful housemate.<br /><br />the dynamic in my failed marriage was similar, but he wasn't nearly the ridiculously self-absorbed narcisist that shares your home. i stayed longer than i wanted to because of my kids, but they saw the separate bedrooms, the lack of affection, and later the separate households. seeing them as adults, talking through it together, they've shared that they knew far sooner than i thought they did that their dad and i weren't going to grow old together... and they are ok with that.<br /><br />you're an amazing father. in the end, nothing much else will matter. it's just going to suck until you get to the tipping point and figure out when and how to pull the chain... during a pandemic clearly isn't the best time to make such a drastic change. daisyfaehttp://daisyfae.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com