tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5570801609581631361.post5267406342979542629..comments2024-03-06T17:02:32.359-08:00Comments on the asshat lounge: Water BuffaloKonohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13865029570865495659noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5570801609581631361.post-474808890235364502018-01-26T01:18:57.305-08:002018-01-26T01:18:57.305-08:00You know, you've developed quite good stereoty...You know, you've developed quite good stereotypically female traits through being around him -- deflection, diverting him away from the subjects that will inflame him -- although people like that will find problems in a lottery win. If you tried to match fire with fire it's burn out only yourself.<br /><br />He deserves pity more than anything. It's so true, that people who aren't taught to love -- and that has to be the parents' first duty once the lower bits of of the Maslow triangle are satisfied. I know someone like that -- not nearly as bad as your FIL -- and it all stems from maternal neglect (her Dad fucked off when she was very young). How one learns it in adulthood I'm not sure. I'm not a psychologist but surely it shouldn't be impossible? But he's blind to the care and consideration his in-law's family show him. Well... once you can shut the door on him, just get a nice reefer going, and it'll taste all the sweeter for following such a trying time.loobyhttp://loobynet.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5570801609581631361.post-88329185081949403972018-01-05T19:03:19.326-08:002018-01-05T19:03:19.326-08:00Daisy- I don't try to fix him... and you are r...Daisy- I don't try to fix him... and you are right, he is the sole architect of his misery, i try to show him that there are equal parts light for every equal part darkness, i don't dwell or try to fix what cannot be fixed, i do what i do for him because my father taught me compassion and empathy and that you do things for people when they need help, you've read about his mother, i've been learning more, i got some neat tales on the horizon...<br /><br />Exile- i understand your point perfectly, he never talked to his kids about the shit he saw in 'Nam but we've had in-depth discussions about it, the guys who survive that shit are left with questions and guilt and what not and all deserve help in working through that the best they can, i once told him the day he walked out of the jungle and got on a plane that the rest of his life should have been gravy cuz nothing would ever be like that again, how i'd wake up and kiss the sunrise, i understand it takes time to get to that but you get there... sadly everything i know about him points to the fact he was much the same before as he was after...<br /><br />Kid- brother, i don't have to type it cuz you already know... look for that email soon...Konohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13865029570865495659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5570801609581631361.post-54608081320181486492018-01-05T17:23:52.121-08:002018-01-05T17:23:52.121-08:00y'all. acts of compassion = the good fight. ...y'all. acts of compassion = the good fight. <br /><br />keep fighting the good fight, brother. even water buffalos need compassion. miserable, isolated, haunted and fucked up, I'd say more not less.kidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07036864418920864804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5570801609581631361.post-78169056080888091112018-01-05T07:32:08.674-08:002018-01-05T07:32:08.674-08:00I understand your position but if you saw shit no ...I understand your position but if you saw shit no human should have to see, you might have a difficult personality as well. Might've been interesting to know him before that happened. But Daisy is right. He is irreparably broken. <br /><br />That dude should meet my brother. A psychotic who thinks Obama is a trator and the Dems run child porn rings. They'd have a great time.Exile on Pain Streethttp://exileonpainstreet.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5570801609581631361.post-3018140342346507412018-01-03T18:25:38.354-08:002018-01-03T18:25:38.354-08:00you can't fix him. although not nearly as cold...you can't fix him. although not nearly as cold or self-absorbed, my mother was perpetually bitter, no matter how many nice things happened to her. i couldn't fix that. she died bitter. but we did the best we could to entertain her, distract her, feed her, comfort her, and care for her. she appreciated it, but always felt that life owed her something better.<br /><br />your f-i-l is going to die just as bitter and miserable as he is today. he is the sole architect of that misery. daisyfaehttp://daisyfae.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com